I have reached the holy grail!
It is a question of timing
NO OTHER Server Actions must be Added UNTIL I follow through immediately
after choosing the STEPS – Database Actions --> Database Connection
I was adding several steps after the first step without first getting the Database Connection Options in Properties first filled out and tested.
From the tutorial I was getting the impression that I could Add OTHER Steps after the Database Connection was First Added & when I had added the steps I wanted then I could get the Properties to show me the OPTIONS for the Connection itself
Now I know that I can not add multiple steps & expect the Properties to Display the Connection Options a minute later.
Thanks for the Help and Patience!